"And the Lord's bondservant must not be quarrelsome,
but be kind to all,
able to teach, patient when wronged,
with gentleness correcting those who are
in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance
leading to the
knowledge of the truth,
and they may come to their senses and escape from the
snaire of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will."
2 Timothy 3:24-26
able to teach, patient when wronged,
with gentleness correcting those who are
knowledge of the truth,
and they may come to their senses and escape from the
Have you ever been talking to someone about
God’s Word. only to find that he or she wants to argue with you about the
truth? If not, how would you handle it
if you did? Even more importantly how
would you handle it if the person claimed to be a believer? That was the situation Timothy found
himself in as a young pastor. In this
passage Paul tells Timothy how he should relate to those people who were
in opposition to the truth he was teaching. I have noticed people who
disagree with doctrine often look for things they can use to negate another
person’s view. Sometimes they say things that could cast doubt on a pastor’s
teaching, especially if the comment were made to a new believer who was not
grounded in truth or someone who is struggling in their relationship with God.
The advice Paul gave Timothy is very applicable to us when we find ourselves in
relationships with quarrelsome people.
Let’s look at the word “bondservant.” In
Paul’s day a bondservant was someone who had been a slave for a period of time
in order to pay off a debt. At the end of the debt they were to be set free.
There were some people who had been indebted to a benevolent master and when
they were set free they would pierce their ear as a sign that they were
choosing to stay with their master so they could serve him out of love and
gratitude. That is the kind of people we want to be. Understanding Christ
bought us with His blood our of the slave market of sin. He reconciled us
to the Father, which can bring about a gratefulness that creates in
His people a desire to serve Him out of love rather than obligation.
Next, Paul tells Timothy that as a
bondservant he must not be quarrelsome. It is interesting that this advice
was given in light of quarrelsome people opposing
Timothy’s teaching. He advises Timothy to be kind, able to teach, and patient
when he was wronged. Notice that he does not tell Timothy to ignore the
offence. He says he is to correct those
who oppose him, but he should do it with gentleness. When somebody snaps at us
or opposes our opinions and words, what is our natural response? What
is their natural response when we snap back at them?
When we react at an emotional level, it seems our pride gets wounded
and we cling to our opinions even harder, making us less open and less
teachable. Paul was pointing out, that by maintaining a gentle kind spirit, Timothy
could remove himself as the point of rebellion and increase the chances that the truth he spoke would be heard. He
was also reminding Timothy that even though he was God’s mouthpiece, it was up
to God to change hearts and minds.
Lastly, he points out that people who
oppose the truth are people who believe the lies of Satan. He lays traps for
people and then uses them to do his will. When we are face to face with
someone, we want to remember the real enemy is not the person, it is Satan or his demons. By keeping this in mind our pride quiets and we can gently tell the truth and then let their battle be with
the Lord, not us. I don’t know if you are like me, but sometimes when I am
frustrated by a situation in which I feel powerlessness, I find myself projecting
anger toward someone who has nothing to do with the situation. When our oldest
son was young he had a friend come over to play. She was about 8 years old and
had an accident on a bicycle. When her dad came to pick her up she expressed strong anger at him because she was hurt. We were both surprised, but we realized she was really only angry that he was not there to comfort
her. We might be facing a quarrelsome person who is in the same boat. They may
have been hurt and Satan may be taking advantage of their pain to get them to
argue with God or the person who hurt them and their anger gets displaced on us. Being kind and gentle in the presence of a
quarrelsome person is not easy! It is a supernatural act that can only be done in the power of the Holy Spirit.
Is there a quarrelsome person in your life right now? How have you been dealing with the person? What could you do differently in light of today’s Scripture? How hard would it be to be kind, patient, and gentle when someone is arguing with you over Scripture or other things you know to be true? I think it might help us if we can remember that the goal is not to win an argument, but to invite the person to repentance and restoration. If we can let go of pride and assume a humble stance, we have a better chance of reaching this godly goal than if we are argumentative. This also prevents us from being used by the Enemy in his efforts to keep the person in bondage. One of the most practical statements we can use with others is, “Help me understand why you believe that.” By using that we remove ourselves from an argument and place ourselves in a situation to learn why a person thinks or feels as he does. Then we know better how to approach him with the truth.
Is there a quarrelsome person in your life right now? How have you been dealing with the person? What could you do differently in light of today’s Scripture? How hard would it be to be kind, patient, and gentle when someone is arguing with you over Scripture or other things you know to be true? I think it might help us if we can remember that the goal is not to win an argument, but to invite the person to repentance and restoration. If we can let go of pride and assume a humble stance, we have a better chance of reaching this godly goal than if we are argumentative. This also prevents us from being used by the Enemy in his efforts to keep the person in bondage. One of the most practical statements we can use with others is, “Help me understand why you believe that.” By using that we remove ourselves from an argument and place ourselves in a situation to learn why a person thinks or feels as he does. Then we know better how to approach him with the truth.
Prayer: Father we love you and appreciate all that
you do for us. Thank you for your instructions on how to relate to people. Help
us to be gentle, patient, and kind to people who are trying to pick a quarrel
with us. Help us to care more about their hearts than winning an argument. Help
us to remember that our real enemy is Satan who is like a roaring lion seeking
who he can devour and use for His own purposes.
Amen.
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